Grief

My father was a King.

His dominion was nestled along the westernmost border of Indiana, stretching from Dana to Clinton and finally St. Bernice, communities unknown to most of us, but the cherished home to many grounded, strong folks like my father.

It will soon be four months since his death on Wednesday, June 16, 2010. Daddy died one month before my wedding--a circumstance that has made my grief process awkward and clouded.

I'm still receiving e-mails regarding my father's legendary impact on others. Most senders have a special memory of him and express their appreciation that his tombstone fittingly reads "King" Richard J. Lewman, Jr.

I'd have it no other way.

Photo credit: J.D. Phillips

You're Already Perfect

"You're Already Perfect"
By Leo Babauta, Zen Habits
Consider what changes when you say this to yourself:
"You’re already good enough, you already have more than enough, and you’re already perfect."

• You no longer feel dissatisfied with yourself or your life.
• You no longer spend so much time and energy wanting to change and trying to change.
• You no longer compare yourself to other people, and wish you were better.
• You can be happy, all the time, no matter what happens in the world around you.
• Instead of trying to improve yourself, you can spend your time helping others.
• You stop spending so much money on things that will supposedly improve your life.

As we're finding our way(s), let's all take time to breathe and repeat:
"I am good enough, I have more than enough, and I'm already perfect."